Several people I know have been going through divorces recently but the case that really shocked me concerned one of our home nurses.
She was married to a younger chap for about 20 years and he often went off with other women until he finally decided he would leave her and ask for a divorce. He asked her if it could be an ‘amical divorce’ and before seeking advice she agreed.
Now, despite the fact that she was the wronged party she has to pay him 500 euros a month as well as sell the house (that she bought and is paying for) and give him half of the ;proceeds. This is because she works fulltime and he’s a lazy so-and-so who doesn’t work. However, he has moved in with his new partner who is quite well off.
It seems there’s no room for common sense in a French divorce case!
Friends tell me that French legal system moves slowly but it was well over a year ago when Florence and Pascal were heartbroken because their son’s partner suddenly decided that they couldn’t see their grandson. There was no good reason. She just didn’t like the fact that they bought him toys to play with when he went round their house. Their son didn’t have the guts to stand up to her and so they had to take it to court.
I willingly wrote a letter in support as it was obvious how much they adored their only grandson and thoroughly enjoyed spoiling him and playing with him. But the months went by before it came to a preliminary hearing and the son and his girlfriend didn’t even bother to turn up. Pascal and Florence ‘won’ but still didn’t have the right to see the little boy until it went before another judge.
Meanwhile they had to content themselves with saying hello to him through the school fence..
Then, yesterday I had a call from Pascal. It has been finalised at last and they can see him one weekend a month and for a week during the school holidays.
Let’s hope the parents don’t make life difficult. Heaven knows how long it would take if they had to fight through the courts again.